Friday, June 13, 2008
Talking SEX: Turning pain into pleasure
I came across an article online from the Jamaica Gleaner.
Talking SEX: Turning pain into pleasure
The link to the article is
http://www.jamaica-gleaner.com/gleaner/20080607/features/features9.html
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Some interesting points I noticed in the article:
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Many people think that BDSM practitioners are mentally challenged, but The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorder (DSM-IV) asserts, "The fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviours" must "cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning" and the activity must be the sole means of sexual gratification for a period of six months. It might also involve violation of consent for sexual sadism or masochism to be considered a mental disorder.
Interestingly, BDSM practitioners are usually well educated, wealthy yuppies aged 20-40.
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The pleasure of pain
From what I have just described, it appears that a small subculture do derive pleasure from pain. The experts believe that painful stimuli cause the release of pleasure hormones such as endorphins, serotonin, melatonin, adrenaline and noradrenaline.
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In 1987, Moser and Levitt conducted a study of 178 male and 47 female BSDM practitioners. The results revealed:
66.1 per cent enjoyed spanking
65.0 per cent enjoyed bondage
14.7 per cent enjoyed piercing
10.1 per cent enjoyed branding
6.8 per cent enjoyed tattooing
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Common myths about BDSM:
Dominants are naturally cruel people.
Submissives are naturally weak-willed 'doormats'.
Submissives are attempting to relive childhood abuse.
Talking SEX: Turning pain into pleasure
The link to the article is
http://www.jamaica-gleaner.com/gleaner/20080607/features/features9.html
*****
Some interesting points I noticed in the article:
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Many people think that BDSM practitioners are mentally challenged, but The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorder (DSM-IV) asserts, "The fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviours" must "cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning" and the activity must be the sole means of sexual gratification for a period of six months. It might also involve violation of consent for sexual sadism or masochism to be considered a mental disorder.
Interestingly, BDSM practitioners are usually well educated, wealthy yuppies aged 20-40.
-----
The pleasure of pain
From what I have just described, it appears that a small subculture do derive pleasure from pain. The experts believe that painful stimuli cause the release of pleasure hormones such as endorphins, serotonin, melatonin, adrenaline and noradrenaline.
-----
In 1987, Moser and Levitt conducted a study of 178 male and 47 female BSDM practitioners. The results revealed:
66.1 per cent enjoyed spanking
65.0 per cent enjoyed bondage
14.7 per cent enjoyed piercing
10.1 per cent enjoyed branding
6.8 per cent enjoyed tattooing
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Common myths about BDSM:
Dominants are naturally cruel people.
Submissives are naturally weak-willed 'doormats'.
Submissives are attempting to relive childhood abuse.
Guidelines for meeting safely
I came across these guidelines on CpcP's spanking website at:
http://www.cpcp.me.uk/safemeet.htm
Guidelines for meeting safely ...
Just a few hints to help ensure that you have a fun and safe session
http://www.cpcp.me.uk/safemeet.htm
Guidelines for meeting safely ...
Just a few hints to help ensure that you have a fun and safe session
- Chat by e-mail a few times to check you are compatible and get a feeling for whether the contact is genuine and the stories and descriptions "hang together". Genuine contacts will appreciate the chance it gives you to get to know one another a bit.
- Get a photo' if possible ... body and butt.
- Be as specific as possible about what you are and are not looking for if you can. Of course, if you are new to this you may not know yet. If that's the case, say so. Some guys are happy to help novices to experiment and find their tastes.
- Be realistic and think twice before meeting guys from a long way away. There can be 101 reasons why two people don't get on when they meet, especially for something as "specialised" as CP. It can be embarrassing, disappointing and frustrating if someone has travelled a long way and it doesn't work. It also puts on pressure to try to make it work and that means you are not relaxed and it is no longer fun.
- Chat on the 'phone before meeting because you can tell quite a bit from a voice.
- Don't be tempted to rush to meet before you have checked compatibility, etc.
- Don't let yourself be bull-dozed into hastily arranged meetings. Beware especially of making arrangements during one of those horny late night chats!
- If in any doubt, don't meet! Trust your gut instinct.
- If mood on the day is important to you, don't plan too far ahead. If you are going to be on the receiving end and not really up for it, you may just feel irritated by the pain! Any sensible person will understand.
- Maybe tell a friend when you are going to meet someone new. Write the location and/or 'phone number in an envelope at home where the friend can find it if necessary. Perhaps agree that you will 'phone at a certain time to confirm all is well. (This may sound melodramatic but it's a simple thing that will help in the unlikely event of something going wrong)
- Attend to personal hygiene … especially if you are gonna get spanked!
- If it isn't working, be honest about it and say so. Hopefully you are both adult enough to accept that it won't always work well and to withdraw with good grace.
- Be polite enough to tell the other guy if you can't make a date for any reason.
- A note of thanks afterwards, even if a session didn't go well, doesn't take much effort and can only enhance your reputation. Many encounters happen through "networking".
These guidelines from CpcP's spanking website at: http://www.cpcp.me.uk/safemeet.htm
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